No Apologies

Research shows abusers almost never apologize or accept true responsibility for their actions. Coming to terms with that knowledge isn't easy.

Throughout my marriage, my ex-husband always had excuses and justifications for his abuse — and somehow in the process, the fault usually seemed to become mine.¹ When he hit me, for example, it was only because I’d ‘said the meanest thing anybody ever said to him.’² When he put alerts on my credit cards and insisted on going through my grocery receipts i…