We Don't Talk About Sexual Abuse in Our Marriages.

So here I am, talking about it. Wish me luck.

In my last post on sexual abuse, I wrote about the toll jealousy took on my marriage. Throughout my entire relationship, I was continually accused of thinking about and wanting to be with other men, to the point that I was afraid to look at or talk to any man that my ex-husband might think I found attractive. I wish I had known before I married that jealousy is a huge warning sign of a potentially abusive partner.

I didn’t see the red flags before we married and if I did, I ignored them — but within weeks of our wedding, it became clear to me that at least physically, my new husband thought of me as his possession, one he’d paid for with a ring, a shared house, and a signed marriage contract.